True Friendship is Unconditional
What makes some friendships so special? The purest form of friendship travels through all travails, shipwrecks, and still survives.
What makes them different from the other? There is only one distinguishing factor — True Friendship is Unconditional.
What Do You Mean By “True Friendship is Unconditional”?
When there is a buy-one-get-one offer at your favorite store, you might see a fine print below that says “Terms and conditions apply”.
In the purest of friendships, there are no terms and conditions. You know them as they are, understand what they have been through, accept what they have become as a result of it, and above all, allow them to grow.
Choose Your Friends Wisely
Friendships differ from other relationships in one obvious manner. Unlike in familial relationships, in friendships you have the power to choose. You choose to become friends with someone.
This means, you are making a conscious decision on whom to befriend. At the same time, you can choose whom to defriend.
So choose your friends wisely, because they have the power to change your life for better or worse.
No Judgments, No Rules
If your friendship is defined by a lot of ‘if-then’ clauses, then you cannot say that your friendship is unconditional.
Everybody has a story. No two lives can be the same. They may have had a rocky past. They may be about to have an even rockier future.
If someone is a certain way, different from how you expect them to be, they probably have a good enough reason for it.
And no, not everyone has a choice to weave their life the way they want it to be. You may have done it the right way. Kudos to you!
You may think your friend could have chosen to deal with the situation differently than how she did. And yes, as a friend you have every right to express your opinion.
And even more importantly, you have the responsibility to guide her in the right path. But chances are that when they have had a setback, they need a shoulder to lean on at that moment rather than an over-critiquing best friend.
So be that person. You can express your opinion later, after she has calmed down, at a time when she will need it.
Acceptance is the Key
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